I watched this show on Showtime the other day and it still has me wanting to go out and join every support group I can find. The movie was called Very Young Girls and it was about young teenage girls who were in "the life" and about showing them a way to learn that there is more out there than being a prostitute for a pimp. Some successfully left, while others went back, time and time again.
There was one girl on the show who was mad as hell at her "Daddy" when she first started talking to him on the phone, and by the end she was smiling and talking about having kids with this man, and I was left thinking what the fuck? She was so excited about the conversation she just had with him that she couldn't wait to talk to him again and she had just hung up the phone with him.
I wanted to know just want this grown ass man had said to her, a child, and why she couldn't see that he would say whatever he had to say to get her to come back, which is what she did. I wanted to scream for her to not listen to this crap he was spewing and to not do whatever it was he wanted her to do. I was on just her side of the conversation yet I could tell that whatever the fuck he was saying wasn't true.
I wanted to yell that any man that loved you wouldn't want you to be with another person. That any man that loved you would not be with you and many other women, and that if he really loved you, he would not take from you, he would be giving of himself. I wanted to tell her that any man who would take from you, is not a man. And that a true man wants to go to work to provide for his family, only a punk wants to let a child risk her life to take care him. How could she not see it when I could see it so clearly?
The one thing these girls kept saying is that he says he loves me, and wants to be with me. Which led me to wonder, that as women is there something in us that wants to be loved even to point of risking our very being for it? What is going on in the home that makes these girls think that having just one person to love them no matter how bad they get treated by that person and no matter what they coerced to do, that this one person will make everything else in their lives wonderful?
The show actually had pimps on as they tried to pick up girls for their rooster. Watching these two asses made me wonder all sorts of things. From my view point they were nothing special, nothing that would make me want to lay up under someone else then hand over my money to them. They looked average, or even below average, didn't have a flashy car or even expensive clothes, so what was it? Then I paid attention to how the acted towards the girls. They were very complimentary and loving, lavishing praises on them and excessively telling them how good they looked and how much they loved them, wanted to be with them and marry them and have kids with them.
They bought them things, took them places and spent the time with them and in the beginning they are EVERYTHING to these girls. You want to be loved, I'll love you, you want to go to the mall and buy stuff, here take this roll of cash, your father ran off and you have no idea who who he is, I'm play your daddy and make sure i protect you from everything else, including your momma that was giving you a hard time about cleaning the house....they become all encompassing for these girls.
Once the pimps had the girls hooked they made them prove their loyalty or love for them, which usually involved them turning a trick once again for "Daddy." You remember when I took you out, well it takes money and now I'm broke. You like getting your hair and nails done right, well I spent my last dollar feeding you. I can't get a job because I'm taking care of you, were a partnership and you need to bring something to the table.....Pure craziness at the highest level!
I wanted to reach into the TV and choke the crap out of these guys, okay maybe that isn't quite right but at the least I wanted to kick them in the knee caps. Violence is never the answer or the solution but sometimes it's part of the essay lol.
Watching the show made me realize one thing: I want to help. I don't know how I'm going to do it yet but trust me when I say I'm going to be part of the solution to help this totally jacked up problem. And no I won't be going around kicking pimps in the knee caps, well don't hold it against me if I do.
If a teenager is too young to consent to sex, how can she or he be arrested for prostitution, yet the molester is free to leave and is not considered a molester because he paid for a prostitute....huh? Underage is underage and something needs to be done. Watch the show....get involved and finally love your children people